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I'm a Curly Girl

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Two years ago I was complaining to a friend about how irritated I was with my hair. It was no longer holding a curl from my beloved curling iron, it was very frizzy a short while after straightening it, and it just took so long to deal with. From the point of getting out of the shower to having it completely styled, it took a minimum of 1.5 hours. I have three small children, I do not have the time. So this friend asked if I had heard of the curly girl method, and I had not. She added me to a group, and I read and read and read. 

What is the curly girl method? It's a way of caring for naturally wavy or curly hair. So you put away the straighteners, brushes, sulfate filled hair products. You want to figure out your curl type (how loose or tight your curls are, and yes, wavies count) and then your porosity (stay with me) and then there's a lot of trail and error. A lot. There's actually a book and it's a great place to start. I'll also link to a few of my favorite instagrammers who have taught me loads about caring for my particular hair type. 

Fall of 2016 was the first time I attempted the routine and it took soooo long to diffuse my hair. I was frustrated. I couldn't figure out the right balance of product, so I gave up. Six months later I got a Deva cut, and that's where they teach you about curly hair and how to apply product. They also cut your hair dry, wash and style, and then cut any parts that need touching up. I highly recommend doing this. 

I still went back and forth with my commitment to the method because while I was using curly girl approved products, I was frequently blow drying and straightening my hair. Finally in October of 2017 I put away the curling iron and hair brush, and I haven't looked back since. December of 2017 I had a foot of hair cut off, and in April of this year I had even more hair cut off. The results have been amazing. With proper deep conditioning, products, and styling I have healthy curls that I love, and I've cut my hair routine time in more than half. It might be hard to tell because -quality photos- but my hair has gone from limp, stringy, dry and frizzy, to soft, rope-y bouncy curls. 

If you're thinking of trying it out, please give it a go! You can email, comment, or message me. It's been a journey of self acceptance. This is the hair that I was given, and I am now in love with it. I can't remember the last time I felt like I had a bad hair day. Next week I'll have another post on my current routine and what products I'm using. 

Here are some of my favorite Instagram accounts run by curly girls who have a similar curl pattern to mine, or are just a great resources: 

@Dominique has amazing video tutorials on product application, diffusing, etc. 

@reallifecurlygirl has a lot of great info on different products, and a fantastic youtube video for beginners. 

@curlpowersalon is the salon I went to here in Minneapolis, but I love following salon accounts because they have so many inspirational photos. 

@naturallycurly is another great account to follow for product reviews and interviews

And this article is another good place to start. 

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A Family Visit

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It was a bit of a surprise, but due to the stars aligning so, my parents and grandparents were able to visit us this spring. The weather was cool and cloudy most of the time, and while I wish it had been sunnier, the milder climate allowed for longer walks around our neighborhood.


My grandparents and parents love gardening, so they came at the perfect time. Our late spring meant the tulips were in full bloom, lilacs on the edge of flowering, and they got to see that magnificent evolution of bright green buds on the trees turning into lush greenery.


More importantly they got to spend time with my boys, and my boys with them. My grandma is… fiesty. Victor found his match in her, and it was something else to see them half scold each other all day. I kept Iggy home for a couple of days so we could spend a long weekend together. We did some sightseeing, gardening, grilling, and I took them to my favorite place in Minnesota, the Arboretum. The apple blossoms were at their peak, tulips put on a big show, and Archie almost scared my grandma to death when we ran across the road.

The best part of it all? They want to come back, and I am all about it. Next time, I hope they're here for the autumn color show.


When the baby naps...

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Well, that has to have been my longest blogging break. It doesn't seem as long to me because I'm always starting posts in my head, but then, who has the time? Not me, says me. 

I've seen a few other of my old faves start posting more (and I mean this in the nicest way) ordinary posts. No announcements, sales, or deep thoughts, just good ol' here's-what-we're-doing-in-life-right-now posts.

In November we celebrated a whole year of living in our house. To anyone new around here, you can read about our rental and moving story here, here, and here.  It feels weird to not be planning and prepping for another move. I finally committed to painting the dining room, and it's definitely not a rental color choice. 

I spent the winter hibernating and loved it. I made sure to get out for walks with the boys a few times a week, but I really enjoyed a period of not having to go out and do so many things. I realized at the beginning of winter that for years we had been living in places where due to our neighbors we couldn't be home with our kids all day. I soaked in this restful period. Lots of organizing closets and cabinets, finding a good rhythm with the boys, and just enjoying our home. 

Spring has sprung (finally) and my family is coming for a visit next week, and I know we're several weeks behind in spring, but I do hope my grandma gets to see some of the lilacs in our yard, because last year the show was stunner. 

Last years lilacs 

Last years lilacs 

Oh, I got a bike for my birthday, and today I took the boys our for a ride in the trailer, and it was my first time on a bike in 13 years, and only my second time cycling on real streets ever. I think it will be a good way to break up our days and get me moving a bit more. 

Here's to seeing you sooner rather than later.