Mexican Domestic Goddess

When Your Soft Body Softens Your Heart

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I posted this a few days ago on Instagram. It really should have been a blog post, but who has time to sit down for that right now? Not this girl. Anyway, I'm just going to copy and paste it below because #lazy. 

Several times in the last couple of weeks I've been congratulated on my new baby, and they aren't talking about the one in my arms. They think I'm pregnant. I get it. I look like I am. I know people have unrealistic expectations about women bouncing back after giving birth. And I know I started off with a few (or a lot of) extra pounds before getting pregnant. I'm not mad, or even really annoyed. I'm serious when I say that this pregnancy/birth has been my easiest in terms of recovery, both physically and mentally. I'm sure some of that has to do with a baby who nurses well, sleeps well, and can actually be put down in a bassinet for naps. But a lot of the ease of recovery has to do with my relationship with my body. A year ago I was determined to 1. Lose weight and 2. Not get pregnant for a good long time 😑 I did manage to lose some weight before our little surprise joined us. I know my body is soft, and not where I want it to be. But I'll get there. It will take hard work and time, but it will happen. I'm much more patient and forgiving this time around. Maybe it's because I have a better understanding of what my body can do. It's grown three whole new human beings, and (much to my dismay this last time around- the epi didn't take in time!) I've had unmedicated labors and I've worked, and breathed, and moved these babies out of my body and I've loved and fed them with my body, and damnit, that's the most amazing thing I've ever done. So do I love the pregnant looking tummy? Not really. But I do love this body that lets me love these little babies

Blogs I'm Reading

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Someday I'll get the big ol' blog roll back up and running. When I switched over to Squarespace I didn't make the time to add them all back, but I will! Pinky promise. 

In the mean time, here are four new-to-me blogs that I've been reading. I also really enjoy their Instagram accounts. 

A Gentle Mother- Christina is funny, and beautiful, and she wraps her babies like an amazing mama goddess. You can follow her blog here, and her Instagram account here. Her feed is the perfect mix of babies and baking. 

Musings of a Queen B- That title cracks me up. I'm not sure if it's supposed to, but it does. Bridget is a newlywed with lots of style. Her pretty blog puts mine to shame. You can read her posts here, and follow her here

Hey Katie- I want to be real life friends with Katie. Is that too forward? But seriously, this girl is all class, and amazing hair, and vulnerability. She's blogging here, and Instagramming here. Also, her hair is amazing. Did I mention that already?

My Minnesota Garden- You betcha I was looking up gardening blogs after the warm weather we had this weekend. I know it's going to snow again, but let me have this, ok? Ok. And I've got to be realistic about what can grow this far north, and I appreciate this inspiration. Maria seems to be a pro gardener, and takes beautiful photos of her plants, so win, win, win. You can follow her blog here, and Insta account here

And speaking of blogging, I'm just gonna remind you that if you are a woman who blogs and you are in the midwest or are willing to travel here in late March, registration for our conference closes in less than a month. We set up a website with all the info! So head over there, join the group, register, and get ready for some crazy blogging fun. Okay, maybe not crazy, but it will be fun. 

7 Quick Takes: The Postpartum Edition

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While I can't blame all the blog silence on my two crazy toddlers and newborn baby (I mean, new house, new routines, giant pregnant belly and prodromal labor) they have been a bit time and brain space consuming. But here's to jumping back in with some Quick Takes: The Postpartum Edition, inspired by the ever cool Blythe's post about how to do it like a boss

1. A robe - I've lived in this one from Target. I kept it in my hospital bag, so the first time I used it was after that glorious postpartum shower. You know the one I'm talking about. There's something about staying in a robe all day for days that makes you just slow down, which is exactly what needs to happen when you're healing and recovering after giving birth. 

2. This little spray bottle - handy dandy! If you've had a baby you know what I'm talking about, and if you're going to have a baby, do yourself a favor and get one. They one they give you in the hospital is fine, but this one is just designed better. Plus, all my nurses were super impressed with it. Oh, and while you're at it, get this New Mama Bottom Spray

3. Cuarentena - I know, what? It's the term for the Mexican tradition of resting for forty days postpartum. I've never done it for that long, and honestly, of my three births this is the most I've rested postpartum. The tradition involves the new mama carrying for only her baby while her family takes care of her and her home. No stairs. No extensive walking. No standing for long periods of time. Food and drink restrictions. So many things.

 I recently read an article about the Chinese tradition of "sitting the month" that sounds pretty similar. All of my midwives, and doulas have emphasized this wisdom. I know not everyone has the luxury of doing this, and I realize how fortunate I am. My parents have been able to spend the first few weeks of our babies lives taking care of us. They cook and clean, play with the older kids, bounce the baby so I can nap or shower. It's amazing and a huge blessing. Thank you, mom and dad! 

4. Sitz Baths- I've been fortunate in that each of my deliveries has been easier on my body than the last, postpartum anyway. With my first two boys we didn't have a bath tub, I took advantage of the hospital tubs. After my second delivery, I got this fancy thing. But this time around we had a deep, deep tub. Let the angels sing. So I tried to take at least two soaks a day. My amazing midwife gave me a bag of herbs to hang under the running water (she's amazing, right). Nell's sister makes and sells some here, if you're interested in stocking up before you have your bebe. 

5. TV Shows - this is the real highlight of postpartum time, right? jk jk, I love you, baby. But I've done plenty of binge watching, because I spend about 90% of my time nursing a baby, or trapped under a sleeping baby. So what have I been watching? 

-Nashville: I've never seen it before so I've got a whopping 5 seasons to plow through. It's light watching, with a healthy dose of drama. 

-Westworld: It's pretty graphic, but so fascinating! I finished that one in a few days. I had to mute it at times because the sounds, oh the sounds. 

-Detectorists- thanks to my friend Annie for this recommendation. I've been watching this one with Ian in the evenings, so I can't exactly binge watch it. 

-A sprinkling of 30 Rock and Parks and Rec to lighten things up

6. This Ikea Cart: GET IT. I've got diapers and newborn clothes on the bottom two racks, and then on the top one I keep my water bottle, meds, chargers, hand lotion, chapstick, etc. It's perfect because you can roll it right up to your bedside. Also, get your brother to build it. 

7. And the best part of postpartum: 

Head over to Kelly's for more Quick Takes